Be a Good Kisser

Be a Good KisserDO gently caress your partner's face.
DON'T octopus your hands all over their body.

DO use your tongue to stimulate.
DON'T use your tongue like a jackhammer.

DO notice how your partner reacts to your kisses.
DON'T notice how cute the guy at the next table is.

DO communicate with your partner.
DON'T communicate the kiss to everyone in the locker room.

DO chew a gum before you kiss.
DON’T kill him with your bad breath.

DO say something sweet now and then while kissing.
DON’T keep blabbering non-stop in the moment of passion.

Read more »

Joke - Indians and Polish

There were two Indians and a Polish fellow walking along together in the desert, when, all of a sudden, one of the Indians took off and ran up a hill to the mouth of a cave.

He stopped and hollered into the cave... "Woooooo! Woooooo! Woooooo!" and then listened very closely until he heard the answer..."Woooooo! Woooooo! Woooooo!"

He then tore off his clothes and ran in to the cave.
The Polish fellow was puzzled and asked the other Indian what that was all about,
was that Indian goofy or something.

"No", said the other Indian. "It is mating time for us Indians and when you see a cave and holler, "Woooooo! Woooooo! Woooooo!", and get an answer back,

that means that she is in there waiting for you.

Well, just about that time, the other Indian saw another cave.

He took off and ran up to the cave, then stopped and hollered, "Woooooo! Woooooo! Woooooo!"
When he heard the return, "Woooooo! Woooooo! Woooooo!",
off came the clothes and into the cave he goes.

The Polack started running around the desert looking for a cave to find these women that the Indians had talked about. All of a sudden, he looked up and saw this great big cave.

As he looked in amazement, he was thinking,
"Man! Look at the size of that cave! It's bigger then the ones that those Indians found. There must really be something really great in this cave!"

Well... he took-off up the hill at a super fast speed. He got in front of the cave and hollered, "Woooooo! Woooooo! Woooooo!"

He was just tickled all over when he heard the answering call of,
"WOOOOOOOOO! WOOOOOOOOO!! WOOOOOOOOO!!!
Off came his clothes and, with a big smile on his face, he raced into the cave.

The next day in the newspaper the head lines read, Naked Polack Run Over By Freight Train!!

Read more »

HOW ONE LOOK INTO THE PROBLEM

Here are 2 excellent cases on

' Difference between focusing on problems & focusing on solutions'

Case 1

When NASA began the launch of astronauts into space, they found out that the pens wouldn't work at zero gravity (ink won't flow down to the writing surface). To solve this problem, it took them one decade and $12 million. They developed a pen that worked at zero gravity, upside down, underwater, in practically any surface including crystal and in a temperature range from below freezing to over 300 degrees C.

And what did the Russians do? They used a pencil.

Case 2

One of the most memorable case studies on Japanese management was the case of the empty soapbox, which happened in one of Japan's biggest cosmetics companies.

The company received a complaint that a consumer had bought a soapbox that was empty. Immediately the authorities isolated the problem to the assembly! line, which transported all the packaged boxes of soap to the delivery department. For some reason, one soapbox went through the assembly line empty. Management asked its engineers to solve the problem.

Post-haste, the engineers worked hard to devise an X-ray machine with high-resolution monitors manned by two people to watch all the soapboxes that passed through the line to make sure they were not empty.

No doubt, they worked hard and they worked fast but they spent a whoopee amount to do so.

But when a rank-and-file employee in a small company was posed with the same problem, he did not get into complications of X-rays, etc., but instead came out with another solution. He bought a strong industrial electric fan and pointed it at the assembly line. He switched the fan on, and as each soapbox passed the fan, it simply blew the empty boxes out of the line.

Moral

Always look for simple solutions.

Devise the simplest possible solution that solves the problems.

Always Focus on solutions & not on problems.

So the end of the day the thing that really matters is HOW ONE LOOK INTO THE PROBLEM, mere perceptions can solve the tough problems

Read more »

Baseline of friendship is mutual understanding

I have continuously stressed on friendship between two friends. I have also mentioned that friendship cannot exist between more than two friends. I would like to clarify my statement for those people who do not agree to my statement.

My intention to write on this topic is not only to express my views but also make others realize the value of friendship, so that this earth becomes a better place to live.

Friendship, what I am talking about, here, is not friendship, which exists between any two individuals who have same choices. Two people liking vada sambaar cannot be called friends, but they think in this manner.

"I like vada-sambaar, you like it too. I like watching movies, you like it too. You like my company I like yours. We have so much in common! We are friends."
This is the general way in which people make friends these days. The meaning of 10 alphabetical words is deteriorating.

The above example is not an example of friendship; it is actually joining hands with a person whose ideas and favorites match with yours.

Friendship consists of accepting a person wholly in your life in spite of any differences that you may have. Your friend need not like what you like and vice versa.

If this is the baseline (vada-sambaar) of friendship then you may have thousands of friends! Go to the south and you will find one for every step you walk.

But! The baseline of friendship is mutual understanding. You ought to understand as to what your friend's viewpoint is before asking him/her. You must learn to listen to his/her views even if they do not match yours.

This is the beginning of a better decision. You may realize it soon that because of difference in thought or rather opinion, about a particular topic, with your friend, you reach a perfect conclusion, because of friendly discussion with your friend.

You know that there is no square root solution to 26 or 23.
But add them together.
26 + 23 = 49. 49 have a square root!
Your views are 26Your friend's views are 23 ( or vice-versa )
And 49 is your joint view. And 7 is the solution to your problem.

Thus, "Baseline of friendship is mutual understanding."

Read more »

Two Thoughts........of friendship

The other day, you told me on the phone that as you are elder to me, so you have more experience of life...may be it holds true in your case, also for my parents and even your parents...but that set me thinking...does Age always predetermine one's Experience ?

And I found myself saying: No

May be, that little homeless boy on the street has gathered more experience than children like Sunny and Shoma who are given a sheltered life by us...

May be that rag-picker woman who has to struggle daily to make both ends meet and live with dignity in a man's world, even though she may be years younger to me, life may have taught her much more because of her harsh experiences...

May be that street-hawker, or that riksha-wallah, or that beggar, even though they may be years younger to us...yet life has added years to their life...for they learned it the hard way...

Even if we compare the same SES (socio-economic status), a man or a woman who has travelled the world, mixed with various cultures, stayed at different places, mingled with people of all races and studied their lives, irrespective of his/her age, would certainly have a more varied experience than Me or my so called friend.

So I conclude that Age could be a predisposition to Experience, yet not necessarily an essential ingredient for a person to gather his intelligence and wisdom of what life has to offer him...

A short life can be full of varied experiences and a long life can be devoid of many experiences, depending on the circumstances which befall the person, how his fate governs his life, and how he adapts to struggle in this world of Survival of the Fittest.

So Mental Age is always independent of Chronological Age.

That's all for now...Quite a long mail...Happy Pondering !

I'll keep coming back to you in this cosy 'thinking-pad' of mine, to share my thoughts with you, may be daily, may be weekly, may be fortnightly, may be monthly...Life is Unpredictable,

So Am I !

I've come back to you again because 2 thoughts have been bugging me for a long time, and I needed to pen those down...

Read more »

The Ripple Effect

Drop a pebble in the water,
just a splash and it is gone,
but there are half-a-hundred ripples,
circling on and on and on.
Spreading to the center,
flowing onward to the sea,
and there is no way of telling
where the end is going to be.

Drop a word of cheer and kindness,
just a splash and it is gone,
but there are half-a-hundred ripples
circling on and on and on,
bearing hope and joy and comfort
on each splashing, dashing wave--
'til you wouldn't believe the volume
of the one kind word you gave.

Drop a word of cheer and kindness,
in a minute you forget.
But there is gladness still a-swelling,
and there's joy a-circling yet.
For you've rolled a wave of comfort
whose sweet music can be heard,
over miles and miles of water all around the world,
by just dropping--
One Kind Word

The Ripple Effect: Author Unknown

Read more »

Absolute Friendship..

Where did it go wrong? They set out to achieve the unthinkable.. something which was close to being impossible, and in doing so, put their hearts at stake, their tears at stake..

It was close to perfection. Till the time it lasted, it was incredible. It was a connection second only to God.. a connection that had no need for words.. just a connection between two minds so lonely yet so happy, but who found in each other the “sink” as they put it. A sink which neither of them thought was necessary, yet when they found it, they sealed its memory firm in the head to be cherished for the present lifetime..

It was a story of two minds, both of whom thought they were “free”, untouched by the air around them and happy to be surrounded by so many, yet be “alone”.. They had loose ends in their lives.. they acknowledged them, but had learnt to live with them with the hope of finding their respective ends in the times to come..

The fateful day when they acknowledged each other's presence in their lives would surely be a moment to remember for them. The pieces began falling into place, the void was slowly beginning to fill up, and the free minds were bound together by what they termed as “absolute friendship” which they thought would last for generations to come..

It did last for a long time, long enough for it to become a very important phase of their lives..
But where did it go wrong...? The sheer presence of something so perfect was not welcomed by this world which was itself far from being perfect. Hearts change and minds follow and this led to the end of a truely enthraling tale of two strong minds who learnt to admit their weaknesses in each other's presence but continued to be “free“ for the world around them..

Read more »